(COURTSHIP) INTENTIONAL PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIP

 Studies have shown lots of breakups in premarital relationships because many of the relationships were accidental rather than intentional. Some started the premarital journey (courtship), without purpose, vision, and adequate guidance from God and good counsellors. As a result, the whole experience became moribund.

These are what know and put into consideration before going into that courtship.

COMPOSITION AND 

THE BEENEFITS OF INTENTIONAL PREMARITAL RELATIONSHIP (courtship)

1. THE COMPOSITION

An ideal premarital relationship/courtship should be made up of two full-grown adults (male and female) who have a vision of establishing a home. It should be purposeful and not wishy-washy. There is a goal of marriage in sight, and it should be filled with realistic dreams and not ‘eldorados,  The two of them should take time to build a structure with a good base so they do not major on the minor. The two adults should have a good understanding of each other . It should be deliberate and pure. It should be well planned with full details of how to move from one point to another . It progresses by the day from just seeing each other from a distance to becoming close friends , It should be fun-filled and built on trust.

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2. THE BENEFITS

The following are some of the numerous benefits of an intentional premarital relationship during courtship:

It provides a Solid Marital Foundation: If the relationship is well established or grounded, it will serve as a template for the couple on getting married , As a result, any kind of ‘wind’ does not blow the marriage away .

It makes room for a Direction-Driven relationship: There is a realistic destination in mind. The details of the relationship are known to the two parties involved. They are on the same page .

The relationship will be filled with hope and assurances: It will be devoid of uncertainty and full of realistic expectations and optimism .

A Progressive and Flourishing adventure will be experienced .

There will also be Peace and Joy in the relationship: It is void of struggles because there are only two mature adults with positive mind.

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARRIAGE ?

To the couple planning to get married, courtship should be handle carefully.
There are seasons and time for every other facet of human endeavour, doing the right thing at the right time, in marital issues, is crucial to success. Many people have entered the institution of marriage at the wrong time and for the wrong reasons.You should be different and get it right from the onset. When you should married ?, What make a happy marriage? These questions will be addressed in this post.

  WHEN CAN YOU MARRY ?

1. Wait for a measure of financial stability, Not wealth as such bit at least some security.
2. Never marry a woman or a man with the hope of reforming or transforming him or her. Instead of reforming they may drag you to  what may affect your life, wait until any moral problems are settled, I mean when you see him or her changed .
3. Do not rush into marriage even when you lover him or her dearly. It is always advisable to know your partner sufficiently well to know his or her dislikes.
4. Wait until you are old enough to marry. Marriage is for adult and not for children because it carries heavy responsibility , it required maturity and experience.
5. Wait for strong health, marriage requires strong bodies. If  your partner is unwell to satisfy your sexual needs, it can lead to problems in the marriage.
6. Lastly, let God guide you into marriage after much prayer and seeking His will .

WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARRIAGE ?

  This is to couple planning to get married, courtship should be handled carefully. It is a time of getting better acquainted and ascertaining whether or not they are prepared for marriage. It is very important to note that they must not take liberties one with another at this time, for they are not yet married. Avoid petting and caressing lest passion override reason and you ruin everything. Keep yourself pure or you may discover how easily love can turn to hate. Any mistake made during courtship can stamp a regrettable mark on the marriage, if it eventually holds.
  A happy and successful marriage is based on genuine heart agreement of the couple. They must be willing established a good home. They must not defraud one another, rather they should render full benevolence to each other. Genuine love is essential to a happy marriage.
Remember, Marriage is not an experiment for a short time. It is permanent. It must be based on lifetime anticipation.